The blame game is one of the most popular, yet least enjoyed games participated in by couples far and wide. With the fervor the arguments one might think that a million dollars reality show prize was at risk, or a new car, or perhaps some other great gift. When the true reality of the matter at hand is two lovers are disagreeing, probably over something trivial, and both want to be proven right... translation, prove the opposing one WRONG!

This usually opens up a series of conflicts that are far from necessary and when removed can lead to a much happier life. Let's look at taking the blame game out of your life.

1) Accept your lover unconditionally and without expectations. You fell in love, or at least lust, with them for a reason. What was it? Look at that part of them, and know that may not be what shines through all the time but that is their core. If it's not their core you are with the wrong person and need to just move on to a new relationship.

2) Discuss your worries without blaming the other person. When you argue be precise without being accusatory. This makes a neutral stand, allows work to get done, and your lover doesn't jump the defensive. Don't hold your concerns in, but mind your wording. Make sure to be responsible for your words and actions. Every word has the ability to heal or harm the situation. Weigh what you say and do, especially when your feelings are hurt.

3) Understand what part you play in the issue. No one is ever 100% innocent, understand what part you play in straining the situation. Be sure to acknowledge your faults and weaknesses, and work to enhance and move towards resolutions. Remember that you can inspire someone else to change but they can only motivate themselves.

4) Respect the other person's point of view and know you can disagree. You don't always have to end an argument with both parties believing what the other says. It is important just to hear each other out. You can politely agree to disagree, while still respecting each other. Unless the topic is core moral values, then let it go. Just because you don't agree on pizza toppings doesn't mean you have to end the relationship.

I hope these tips can help you all get along a little better, and realize that in the blame game there really is no winner.

Meow Baby,

Tiger RoxXx