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Are you approachable?

One of the hardest tasks to achieve in the dating world is to walk the fine line of approachable behavior with out appearing desperate. You have to find a way to make it known you are willing to be engaged with out it looking like you are going to jump on every offer that comes your way. What are the keys to being accessible without seeming needy? 

Appearance. Bundling clothes, items that are too large, dark unwelcoming colors and styles, hats, hoods, and covered heads are all signs you do not want to interact with anyone. Dress in appealing, stylish, hospitable clothes to show you would like to interact with others. 

Body Language. Your movements and posture may be saying "I'm too busy"or "Leave me alone" if your arms are crossed, you won't make eye contact, or have a closed posture~ among other things~ can alter the way someone interacts with you. Make free, clear, and affectionate gestures. Even when sitting alone you can be saying 'I am open to conversation' or 'go away' with simple moves like looking around the room slowly with a smile or checking your watch. 

Make the first move. Practice small talk with strangers so when the time comes to have a chat with a potential date you won't freeze up. Don't feel bad about making the first move towards someone you find attractive. Remove your boundaries by being the initiator. Have an idea of what you would like to talk about with a potential date when you are approached. 

Placement. Make sure that you place yourself in the room in a position of accessibility. Being tucked in corners, hidden behind things, or blended in crowds makes it hard for you to stand out and be seen. If you look too busy with friends or are engaged behind something then you may be passed over by an interested party. Be available and in the open so you can be approached. 

So these are the tips to being accessible without seeming needy when you are out in the dating scene. Good luck! Meow Baby, Tiger RoxXx